“No New Friends” Mentality


“I’ve heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason, bringing something we must learn…” -Wicked

Hello, friends! I am currently at the tail end of my senior year in high school, where the very lasts of the “last times” are coming to a close. At the beginning of my senior year, I made a list of goals for myself as I finished a new chapter of my life. One of my main goals was to #1 finish with all A’s in my classes and #2 maintain and strengthen relationships with my friends. I feel like I’m doing a decent job with both, though it’s difficult at this point of senior year when everyone is ready for college or whatever they have planned for the future. Many feel that it is too late to start something new, especially with friendships. One common thought I have heard people mention is the idea of “no new friends”, in which students become content with the friends that they have and feel as though forming new friendships would be pointless as they’re graduating and may never see these people again. Let’s elaborate on this issue, shall we?

Problem #1:

I have issues with mentality, because it’s shortsighted and has a negative impact on yourself and the people around you. Closing yourself off to others and just focusing on people you’re friends with now is limiting and doesn’t help you grow as a person.

Problem #2:

It’s great to have a core group of friends that you can establish firm relationships with, but it’s important to realize that people come into your life for a reason. Everyone you will meet will impact you in some way, giving you a new experience, changing your mindset, or helping you to discover something new about yourself. The “no new friends” mentality doesn’t allow you to enjoy the personal benefits of forming a relationship with another person.

Problem #3:

What’s wrong with making new friends anyways? You’re an awesome person and it would be selfish to keep people from meeting the incredible you! I’m not saying that you have to become best friends with everyone you meet, but don’t close yourself off just because you believe that you’ll never see these people again.

Final Thoughts:

Personally, I love the friends I currently have, though it’s quite possible that I could lose touch with some of them when I go to college. That being said, there’s no harm in working to maintain the relationships that you have. However, it’s inevitable that some friendships will fizzle and new ones will form, but it’s important to remember that we’re all here on this earth, so we might as well enjoy each other’s cmpany.


-Love Ling


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